People wants to form couples very fastly while they actually don't know much about each others. Often, it's fear that leads them to act this way.

 

Young folks are getiing married at 25 years old or 30 years old are like construction sites of the first floor of a skyscrapper; they decide to build it believing that they will always be the tuning fork of the other and that, when their floors will get higher, bridges will be constructed between them.

 

In fact, they are surrending themselves to an investment of the unknown.

Their chance of success are rare. That is why we assist to so many divorces. 

Every growth, every evolution of conscience, the person believes he needs somebody else. To build a couple, you need to be four, each having found his alter ego inside of himself. The man who has accepted his part of feminity, the woman who had accepted her part of masculinity. Both are now completed and will stop searching for what is missing in the other.  They can associate freely without fantasmating on the ideal woman or the ideal man, because they have already found in in themselves.